Let’s face it, we all have our moments where it feels like we are failing and so many Reasons I’m A Terrible Mom.
Let’s face it, we all have our moments where it feels like we are failing and so many Reasons I’m A Terrible Mom.
Today, with some serious sleep deprivation, I am feeling this way.
I’m not sure if it will help, but I decided to compile a list to see how much of a terrible mom I really am.
Table of Contents
Ten Reasons I’m A Terrible Mom
I’m writing this while watching my kids play outside
I’m wondering what the writer of the post ‘dear mom on her iPhone at the playground’ would think of me.
Personally, I like this one better.
Yup, I even use my phone at the park.
I try to convince myself that I am usually working, but am I always working when I am staring at the phone with the kids around?
Nope.
Sometimes I should put the screen down and pay attention.
My kids watch TV
I was thrilled when my little boy (2) started watching 20-30 minutes of TV.
I need the break, to work or to relax.
My older boys watch more tv than the little ones, but I will be completely honest, sometimes I use the TV as a babysitter.
They eat sugar, I’m not going Vegan or non-GMO
I think there are a lot of things to be worried about when raising kids.
Is the iPad emitting radiation, are they safe forward facing after 2, to vaccinate or not.
There are so many choices and important decisions in parenting.
I can only do what I can do.
I cannot control the world and I need to focus my energy on what I feel is the most important.
They don’t always match
My kids look like orphans sometimes.
Sometimes they dress themselves.
To make matters worse, I have {at least} two kids that are color blind.
This is a recipe for style disaster.
My house is sometimes often a mess
I’m not Suzy homemaker.
Not by a long shot.
My house is not disgusting, but I certainly hope no one comes over unannounced.
I yell
Does anyone else have kids who don’t seem to hear you unless you are yelling?
Ya, me too.
My parents never yelled.
And I mean never.
I’m not sure how.
I’m still trying to learn their secret.
Perhaps they did, which would be even more reassuring that maybe my children will not remember my moments of weakness.
I’m lazy
It’s human nature to do as little as possible.
Sometimes I let that get the best of me.
My kids are pretty good at forcing me to get up off the couch.
They’ve learned what makes me run, toilet lids slamming, the fridge door opening, silence, and the list goes on.
I put my needs and desires before theirs
This certainly isn’t true all the time, or the kids would not survive.
But it does happen. For instance, my just-turned-2-year-old is begging to be potty trained.
He’s showing all the cues and with a few days of my dedication,
I could help him succeed.
But it’s just not the right time.
I cannot dedicate a week of my life to staying home and getting it done.
I’ve not set a date of when I can commit to potty training, and this is weighing heavily on my mind.
I don’t always warn my kids when I am leaving
This is completely selfish.
I work two shifts a week as a registered nurse and all the parenting advice will tell you to be sure to say goodbye before leaving your kids.
I can’t handle any more guilt related to working outside the home.
I know they still get upset, but I can’t watch it happen and my husband is able to handle it once I am gone.
I’m going on vacation, to Disneyland without them.
I have talked about my trip with Allegiant and Orange County Visitors and Convention Bureau over the last few weeks.
It’s eating me alive.
In an attempt to compensate for this, I booked a trip to Great Wolf Lodge 2 weeks after I get back.
Yes, I am trying to buy their forgiveness.
Do you have some similar failures?
I would love to hear from you below!
Also, Check out! 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Great Wolf Lodge.
Haha! Love this. I think I may be a terrible Mom according to this list as well… 😀 We are doing a family trip to Disney but I am trying to book a No Kiddies Allowed one as soon as we get back! I know I’ll need a vacay from the vacay LOL
LOL!!! This is such a great post, I must be a terrible mom too! We do the best we can each day, as long as my kids are happy and know I love them the rest doesnt matter much to me :).
You are BY FAR one of the best moms I know, all these things considered, or perhaps BECAUSE of all these things. You can’t take care of anyone (let alone 5 children) if you don’t take care of yourself and you are teaching them that!!! <3
Ha! I am going to Orlando without my hubby and child for a long weekend too. Of course I will be at a work seminar and then running a half-marathon, so it’s all work related, isn’t it? The fact that I may wind up on a beach somewhere has nothing to do with anything.
My kids are starting on their second hour of TV for the day and it’s only 9:30 AM. I’m standing here drinking my breakfast smoothie and working. Thank you Dora, Curious George, Peter Rabbit, and Wild Kratts.
Love this post. Made me feel so much better after reading two blog posts about a healthy vegetable party and losing weight.
Being on my phone or IPad really helps me get through the day. I am typing this as Nicky stands next to me. Ok now he is on my lap. He has watched TV since he was a baby but I tell nobody! I often leave when he is sleeping just to nip out when the maid is there.
Thanks for posting you make us all feel miles better.
I think every mom can name at least ten things that in the eyes of others or news reports would make them a bad mother. I know I can name a bunch but since I know that it doesn’t permanently damage them (for the most part) I’m not going to sweat it. If I did I’d be nuttier than I already am.
Sweetie, we are ALL terrible moms! And we’re all great moms too. I can relate to every single one of these. (And if you want to feel better about your #8, read my latest post 😉 )
I love it too. I feel like a terrible mom every day for some–or pretty much all, plus more–of the same reasons, and it’s nice not to feel like everyone else is perfect. :]nI lose my mind when I read moms saying not to yell, yelling doesn’t work. It sure makes a difference to my kids, even though I wish it didn’t happen. Sigh. Yesterday I felt like a good mom for working outside while the kids played, though, lol, rather than inside. I guess it’s a matter of perspective.